Graz. Miteinander sprechen hilft: in der Politik, in Unternehmen, in Verbänden. Wer die Karriereleiter erklimmen oder eigene Interessen durchsetzen möchte, muss sich zunächst Gehör verschaffen. Das geschieht zumeist nicht in Sitzungen, Meetings oder Verhandlungen, sondern beginnt schon viel früher - beim sogenannten Small-Talk. "Ohne Beziehungsebene kein Erfolg" fasst die Rednerin, Autorin und Expertin für Karriere-Netzwerke Magda Bleckmann zusammen. In ihrem neuem Buch "Das kleine Small-Talk 1x1", das im Januar erscheint, gibt sie Tipps für gute Gesprächseinstiege und zeigt den wahren Wert der beiläufigen Plauderei. Für sie ist Small-Talk die wichtigste Nebensache der Welt.
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